1. Always be aware that “all your anxiety and fuss” is not justified, there are situations that are even worse.
2. Better to double-check everything than to start taking medication. “You will be on time.” In this regard, remember: doctors can be wrong too.
3. If possible, additionally confirm the diagnosis with other doctors, at least 2-3 specialists, without showing them the conclusions of previous doctors.
4. The same with the conclusions about the examinations performed.

Stories from my life

I was born into a large family of rural teacher. At an early age, helping his father, he dragged firewood on his shoulders and blew up his spine. Sharp pains began in the chest, especially in the region of the heart. The pains intensified at night, when he went to bed, with deep breathing and with a change in the weather. My father, as a rural teacher and educated person, believed in doctors and showed me to a district specialist. He gave me a severe diagnosis of “Rheumatic heart disease” and categorically warned my father that I need to be protected, limited physical activity, constantly monitor and strictly adhere to the prescribed treatment (medication). This conversation took place in my presence.

The doctor’s words made such a heavy impression on me that I put an end to my youth and waited for the end. However, later I was examined by a cardiologist and heart disease was ruled out. When I became a doctor, I learned that pain in the heart area was associated with a spinal injury and was aggravated by the depression of the roots when I went to bed, the so-called radicular pain.

I can give you another example: my youngest child, at the age of 6 months, when he was bottle-fed, started vomiting blood. None of the specialists involved could determine and establish an accurate diagnosis, prescribe the correct treatment. Then the local doctor with many years of experience prescribed traditional drug therapy. I wanted to figure it out to the end, so as not to harm the baby and turned to other specialists.

The true cause of the disorders was found by a pediatric dentist, it turned out that they were caused by mechanical trauma to the palate from a rough nipple. Such hard, long, and, moreover, not aesthetic brown nipples were sold by pharmacies in Soviet times. As soon as we changed them to imported ones – short, soft, and beautiful, the baby stopped crying and began to eat normally.

I thought, “What if we followed drug therapy and gave the child the drugs that the district pediatrician prescribed ?!”

I am not urging you to abandon drug therapy.
Everything should be individual: there are life circumstances when it is impossible to help a sick child without drug therapy.

Only after confirming the diagnosis, you can follow my recommendations

• Do not postpone your actions to help the child until tomorrow. Provide it as soon as possible.
• Remember, there are no hopeless children. Never lose heart.
• You can start treatment at any time: better late than never.
• Remove overprotection.
• Never cry in the presence of a sick child, do not show your helplessness, anxiety, fuss, etc.
• Treat him like a healthy child – don’t feel sorry for him!
• Never pamper your child with a computer or telephone. If they are capricious and hyperactive, extinguish their whims by active games, sports, walking around the zoo, going to the cinema and others, including useful work at home or in the country, at least a little, but useful.
• These children must be in a constant speech environment and be able to fulfill the available requirements on a par with healthy children, strictly individually.
• Parents should apply various stimuli to the child for his psycho-verbal, psychomotor and psycho- sensory development.
• There is no need to punish the child, but their desires and whims should be differentiated limited in physiologically accessible doses and with an individual approach.
• Avoid traumatic situations. Also, make sure that while sleeping near the child there are no negative conversations, there are no screams. Children in a dream “hear everything”.
• In a family, the mother, father, and other relatives must adhere to the same requirements in relation to the child and not ignore each other. In particular, the mother or father demands, and the grandmother or grandfather regrets, permits, and pampers.
• Create a positive home environment.
• Forget grievances, scandals, forgive each other, create maximum positivity, emotions at home, and support each other.
• Never be jealous of other children whose mothers have achieved great results, including those families where healthy children are growing up.
• The happiness of another child or family should also be your happiness.
• Watch your appearance, pay attention to your diseases in time, and take timely measures to eliminate them.

Contact the specialists, remember:

• To treat a sick child, parents must be healthy!
• Do not limit yourself in life: rest, communication with friends, guests.
• Don’t suppress your “misfortune” with alcohol or smoking. Then don’t stop.
• Be sure to involve other members of your family in child rehabilitation.
• Do not take out your failures and grievances on your child and family members.
• Don’t be indifferent to the concerns of other family members.
• Do not be shy about the illness of your children, do not limit them and your contacts in the social environment. This is a big mistake.
  Don’t make yourself feel sorry for your child’s illness.
• Be confident and calm, walk with your head held high, raise your children, work hard and naturally with your child.
• Tell other parents about your experiences and accomplishments.
• You should never hope for instant results in treatment and rehabilitation activities. Achieving results is hard work and a long journey.
• The baby should not be aggressively fed. If the child is able to eat, give him freedom.
• If a child is able to walk on his own, do not pick him up – this inhibits the development of fine and gross motor skills. Let him walk on his own.
• If there is a toilet nearby, try not to use a potty, but in each case, it is decided individually.

Example.
Masha was always fed by her mother. The child did not want to eat himself and often protested when the mother tried to force her to eat on her own. Then the mother began to put ready-made food on the table and watched her daughter’s reaction from afar. On the 4th day, the child began to eat independently, without the mother’s help.

Example.
Three-year-old Timofey is constantly in the arms of his mother. If his mother refuses to take him in her arms, he falls and cries. After contacting us and examining us, we did not reveal any pathology and it was recommended that the mother not pay attention to his whims. When the child once again began to ask for his mother’s arms, she refused him. “He fell to the floor and screamed.” The mother did not pay attention to his cry and walked away from him. Then the child got up and followed his mother himself. So the child learned to walk on his own, and we freed mom from stress. And there are many such examples.

In these examples, refusal to feed, pick up, additional assistance in the development of fine and gross motor skills of the child is visible. I emphasize that all these actions were approved by me and were carried out under my control. the child had no physical disorders of the musculoskeletal system of organic origin. This is all individual.

If you have found a good specialist and you see positive changes in the development of the child after the treatment he has carried out, share with other parents your experience of communicating with this specialist. If necessary, ask about the level of qualifications of other specialists, the availability of a certificate, license, scientific titles, publications, and others, as well as his authority among his patients, colleagues, and others. Remember that a real doctor will never criticize or show negative attitudes towards colleagues. If it is, then you see envy and this should alert you.

All these recommendations relate to relatively healthy, somatically and neurologically, children.

For children with severe somatic and neurological pathologies, these recommendations may be slightly modified.

Always remember the truth: “Trust in God, but do not make a mistake yourself.”
According to our long-term observations, after the completion of treatment, the improvement process continues at home. After finishing therapy with us, do not stop working with children at home. Their brains must be in a constant targeted therapeutic load 24 hours a day. Load them with useful “work”, let the children express themselves in creativity, etc. You must exclude the influence of psycho- trauma, scandals, and other negative situations on children.
I repeat, do not expect a miracle, a miracle will come unnoticed, but this is hellish work.

I want to emphasize again

If the parents of patients at home stop fulfilling our requirements and do not work with the child, constant conflicts, socially disadvantaged factors, and others continue in the family, then the children may experience exacerbations, the results of treatment may decrease. But, upon careful observation, it can still be noted that positive shifts remain.

For those parents who doubt the effectiveness of the treatment and at the same time they are constantly tormented by “remorse” and obsessive thoughts about their duty to the child, we individually conduct a short cycle of therapy, lasting 10 days. At the end of 10 days, the parents decide for themselves whether to continue the treatment in the future. And “remorse” and obsessive thoughts about the duty to the child disappear from the soul, like a heavy burden.

For some children with hyperactive behavior, the course of therapy should be selected individually, while the process of adaptation to treatment may occur no earlier than 2-3 cycles. In such cases, treatment must be continued.

Example.
Child Maxim. His mother suffered from neurotic and somatoform disorders. The child and mother received therapy and experienced significant improvement. After the end of the treatment, the mother had a conflict and other negative phenomena at work. She could not follow the doctor’s recommendations and the child again had an exacerbation. However, with a careful history, it was revealed that the child stopped urinary incontinence (enuresis) , circadian eating habits and meteorological dependence disappeared.

Example.
Child Andrey. Extreme hyperactivity and keeps up with mom, symbiosis with mother. Overprotection on the part of parents and grandparents. In the third cycle, it was possible to adopt the child to independent communication with other children, including in the macro-environment. However, in the future, we stopped treatment due to parents’ failure to meet our requirements. Parents, before coming to us for treatment, take these factors into account, think about your capabilities and family potential.

Dear parents and patients!
When you write information about the results of the treatment carried out at our research institute, on the forum write the TRUTH and only the TRUTH, without mentioning my name. Be sure to describe the result you have achieved, and how much of your work has been invested to achieve this result, leave your contact numbers, addresses, or country.

Be healthy!
Respectfully,
Professor Rakhmanov